This is part 4 of my Bridesmaid dress series where I showcase my bridesmaid dresses I’ve worn for weddings and reflect on my younger self. You can read part 1 (here), part 2 (here), and part 3 here. This series has been nostalgic for me, and hearing your feedback has been lovely.
For this fourth part, I will be reflecting on 2 things I learned post-graduation (so somewhere between 22-23). (Part 1 was a letter to my 13 year-old self, part 2 was what I would tell my 18 year-old self, part 3 was 2 Things I Learned Entering my 20’s).
This green mint chiffon dress I wore to my friend’s wedding. I think this might be my only mint dress from this series. And as usual, I will also include a bridesmaid tip & some pink dresses at the end.
2 Things I Learned Post-Graduation:
You, now, determine the meaning of success and determine how you’re going to measure that success
What does this mean? Well, as students we are given what to learn: science, math, writing, reading, etc. The education system has its way of measuring how a student is learning and what that student may need to work on. The system is also set up in such a way that you know what comes next: from first grade to second grade, then to third grade and so on.
Even in college, though you do have more flexibility in what classes you can choose based on the major you chose, there is still a set of classes to choose from and requirements to graduate. There is still a system set in place to measure success: where you’re succeeding and where you’re failing. There are also free resources available for you if you need help.
However, after all of that, you end up in the work place and there is no direction. You will very quickly realize that a job is not exactly a great end-goal. You have no one telling you what to learn, what classes to take, where to find classes (online or in-class), how to measure where you’re succeeding and where you need to improve. You are now the person who determines all of those.
If you want to change careers, you have to find the necessary steps to get there. Even if you just want to grow in your job, you will have to research areas where you can learn and grow from. (Yes, your supervisor may help, but it’s still you who has to initiate that conversation). If you want to do things outside of work (which I highly recommend), you’re going to have to find what classes and where classes are offered for you to take them. (Look at local colleges and libraries! Classes range from pottery, social media, writing, photography, etc for a very affordable price and sometimes even free!). You will now have to choose what to use your time on. Do you want to play sports? volunteer? teach? It’s up to you.
Continuing doing extracurricular activities:
This is something teachers and advisors can’t stress enough in school. But I have found that it is also true for post-school! Even if you love your 9-5, or your job (freelancers out there), it’s still important to have a hobby and do things outside of work. It just makes life more interesting.
Plus, you are not required to take a whole semester of courses! You can just pick and choose whatever you want to learn and move on. Come back when you want to or not at all.
Having a hobby also helps you to continue learning about things outside of your specific job, which I think ultimately makes someone more well-rounded. Plus, with the internet at our finger tips, you can learn a lot of things for free!!
And now, the bridesmaid tip:
There are some brides that don’t necessarily need the help of their bridesmaids. But a lot of brides do. If she asked you to be a bridesmaid, and you accepted, then it’s nice to be available when she asks for help.
Of course, if you absolutely can’t help then be honest. But if you’re just scrolling through facebook or instagram at home, then go and help her =).
Here are also some mint maxi bridesmaid dresses (or maxi homecoming dresses or maxi prom dresses…any special occasion) for you:
And that, my friends are two things I learned post-graduation. What are some things you’ve learned that you still turn to? Or, do you have anything helpful bridesmaid tips? Let me know in the comments!!
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