As a post-grad, I know about the quarter-life crisis. It’s a real thing. As I reflect on my experiences these past few years, I’ve learned some things a long the way and wanted to share 4 things grads should know. May you find them encouraging and helpful. But if you don’t, that’s okay too–just know you’re not alone.
It’s okay to NOT know
Everyone is trying to figure “life” out. Nobody knows the future. It’s okay to feel anxious or afraid of the unknown. Just don’t get hung up on the unknown. Be responsible but be curious too.
It’s okay if you’re not working your dream job
You are (most likely) in your 20’s. If you talk to someone who is currently working his/her dream job most of them have worked multiple jobs prior to their “dream job”. It’s okay if you’re not currently working your dream job. You’re not doing anything wrong. You’re not a failure. It’s just how things are at this point in time. Plus, your job doesn’t define who you are.
Explore your strengths. Explore your experiences. Explore your hobbies. Did you do a lot of event planning in college? Did you volunteer? Are you an organized person? Do you like public speaking? Ask yourself those questions again. Try different things, learn different things. Hone your skills. In fact, maybe try something you’ve always wanted to do but never had the chance to. Plus, the more things you try the better you’ll be at learning about what you like and don’t like.
You can excel in multiple areas
I think humans are multidimensional. A ceramic artist can be lawyer, a baseball coach can be a store manager, a hair stylist can be a writer. Often times we think that we are “called” to do one thing and that one thing is our career and that’s what we’ll be doing until we retire. But people change career paths multiple times before they actual retire. While there are some people who just knew what they were born to do, there are others who don’t—and that’s okay. Don’t be afraid to use your gifts and excel in many areas.
Thank you for reading. What are some other things you’ve learned (from yourself or someone else) about life or the quarter-life? Let me know =)
And as always, I wish you the best!
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4 Important Things to Remind Yourself
I am grateful, but I do get discouraged. When I feel like a failure, these are 4 things I remind myself. I guess these reminders help affirm that life is not perfect and it’s okay.
No one is perfect: Yes, no one is perfect. I am not perfect. You are not perfect. Humans are not perfect. Someone will have different gifts and talents than you but that doesn’t make them perfect. You will have different gifts and talents than others too. And that’s completely okay. READ MORE
I was walking through a local thrift store when I picked up Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Eat, Pray, Love. The book was on my to-read list for a while so for $1.75 I bought it.
After reading the book, I became an instant fan—of the story, of the writing, of Elizabeth Gilbert. Fast forward a few years and I found myself watching Marie Forleo’s interview video with Elizabeth Gilbert on creativity. (By the way, Marie has a phenomenal YouTube channel).
From that video, I found she released her new book Big Magic. I couldn’t get my hands on the book right away, so I went to her podcast and listened to her talk to people about their creativity and their life. I instantly felt an aura of enlightenment—everything (or a lot of things) Elizabeth talked about or advised to these people were the words I needed or the words I’ve been seeking to use (to explain my creative process/thinking to others).
Long and behold, after a few months of following the book launch and Gilbert on social media—I finally got my hands on the actual book.
Big Magic is a “self-help” book where Gilbert talks about creativity through stories and illustrations. However, it is not a step-by-step type of self-help book. It’s more conversational.
I flipped through the pages and I can hear Elizabeth simply talking to me—it’s that kind of self-help book. It’s not condemning you (as someone who creates). It’s about grasping the idea of inspiration and creativity.
One thing I love about the book is the illustrations of inspiration. The one I personally love is Ruth Stone’s story about how “…she would sometimes hear a poem coming toward her—hear it rushing across the landscape at her, like a galloping horse.” She goes on explaining how sometimes it’s more like pulling a tiger’s tail. READ MORE
Here’s the long awaited post about staying motivated. People often say the most difficult step is starting something. Which is true in many cases. But I think it’s the journey that is the most challenging.
For me, I get unmotivated. The little things become tedious, and I begin to lose sight of my main goal(s). However, in the midst of my uninspired moments, I found 3 things that have helped me stay disciplined and motivated. I hope you find them helpful too:
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