This is part 3 of my Bridesmaid dress series where I showcase my bridesmaid dresses I’ve worn for weddings and reflect on my younger self. If you missed my part 1 (read here) and/or part 2 (read here). This series has been nostalgic for me, and hearing your feedback has been lovely.
For this third part, I will be reflecting on what it was like entering my 20’s. (Part 1 was a letter to my 13 year-old self, part 2 was what I would tell my 18 year-old self).
This pink mermaid dress I wore for my older sister’s wedding. I’m pretty sure this is the first and the only mermaid dress I have in my closet. It’s also the most different from all my other bridesmaid dresses. It’s still a beautiful dress nonetheless. I will also include a bridesmaid tip & some pink dresses at the end.
Enter my 20’s:
There’s something exciting about entering a new decade. The beginning of my 20’s were mainly focused on graduation, relationships, and job searching. Even so, I was at the most inspired part of my life (thus far). Not saying that I’m no longer inspired, but I was surrounded by inspired & empowered people and I was yet to be tied to a 9-5.
I said, during a post-graduation interview, that “I feel like at this point of my life I can do anything.” To this day, I still feel the same. Though I definitely feel older, there’s still a part of me that constantly reminds me, “I can still do anything.”
I also believe that life is a journey of learning. While I’m still learning, there are also things I’ve learned. Here are two things I learned from my early 20’s that still applies to my life today:
Have Courage to Love
I didn’t know that I was afraid to love, until I was faced with the fact that I was afraid to love. That stemmed from seeing failure, disappointments, hurt, pain, frustration from relationships around me (romantic & non-romantic). Then I made the decision to love: to learn what it means to love those around me, to learn what love means and what love looks like. Loving others doesn’t mean that there isn’t going to be disappointments, pain, or frustration. It’s also not easy or simple. But I’ve learned so much about forgiveness, patience, and grace. I’m still on the journey to learning about love, but I’ve realize that loving others doesn’t make me weak. It makes me stronger.
Just Do It
If you wait until you know everything, you will probably never start. If you’re like me, and you like to make sure everything works out, I suggest you learn what you can and then just start. Don’t wait until you’ve learned everything. Some things are meant to be learned on the journey not prior. And one of my all-time favorite quotes, “start where you are with what you have.” This is so true.
I’m a person of excuses, but when I get down to it, I just don’t want to commit or am just too lazy to do anything about anything. I’m still learning to “just do it.” It’s simple but not easy. At some point, I got myself to snap out of that and to just do it. The art of “just doing it” has carried me onto a journey I never even imagined. I know it’s my only shot so I have to just do it. So do it. Just do it. Just go.
And now, the bridesmaid tip:
Be cooperative & nice to the other bridesmaids.
It’s one thing to get along with the bride. It’s another to get along with the other bridesmaids. Sometimes you know them, sometimes you don’t. The last thing a bride wants to do is eliminate a bridesmaid (or two).
Plus, the bride is already stressed, she doesn’t need bridesmaids drama.
Respect each other, respect each other’s opinion, be open minded, and have fun! You’re all important to the bride in some way, so be kind to one another and support her along the way =)
And that, my friends are two things I learned from my early 20’s. What are some things you’ve learned that you still turn to? Or, do you have anything helpful bridesmaid tips? Let me know in the comments!!
Here are also some mermaid bridesmaid dresses for you:
Thank you for reading. As always, I wish you the best.
Don’t forget to share something you’ve learned or a wedding tip down below =)
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