This is part 2 of my Bridesmaid dress series where I showcase my bridesmaid dresses I’ve worn for weddings and reflect on my younger self. This pink guava bridesmaid dress I wore for the second wedding I had the opportunity to be a part of. I believe I was actually 20 when they had their wedding, but this post will be dedicated to my 18 year-old self. (I still can’t believe 18 was 7 years ago!! Where did time go?)
Anywho, if you missed my part 1 of this series you can read it here! It’s a letter to my 13 year-old self.
I will also include a bridesmaid tip & some pink dresses at the end.
Here’s what I would tell my 18-year-old self:
I am proud of you
You didn’t hear that very often. You knew you were young, and you were optimistic about the future. Your enthusiasm is still encouraging & contagious. You were excited to go to college, meet new people, learn new things, live in a new environment. All which are really good. You tried new things & knew the direction you should take. I am proud of you. You constantly remind me to have a plan but remain curious. You knew your worth. You were honest. You were empathetic. You were smart & strong in your way. You were busy (I mean, you only had 2 part-time jobs on top of being a full-time student and youth group). But with everything you’ve accomplished in your short 18 years, I am proud of who you’ve become.
With that said, here is something I wish you knew.
Don’t be afraid
You are a smart person. And up to this point you’ve lived your life in such a way where you knew outcomes & conditions. Mostly because your uncertainty caused you to refrain from doing things you weren’t sure of. And that’s okay. Uncertainty IS scary. You were constantly thinking about the future. Measuring how your decisions will look like in the next years to come and choosing the safest route. Even so, you definitely still tried things, lived a wonderful life, and met awesome people. But I want you to know that it would’ve been okay if you chose a different path, or the other path you spent countless nights praying over.
But I guess I am never too late and never too old to start. =)
That, my friends, is a short message to my younger self. If you can relate, know that it’s never too late to start what you’ve always wanted to do. And with everything you’ve gone through and/or accomplished–be proud of yourself.
And here is my Bridesmaid tip of the day:
Don’t give TOO much suggestions, especially unwanted or unneeded suggestions: I know that most suggestions come from a place of friendship, family, love, care, etc. (A good place with good intentions). However, sometimes…sometimes you really don’t need to give your opinion. If the bride decided on a certain center piece, just agree to it. If she asks you to help choose, then of course give your honest opinion on which one you’d choose. (But don’t get upset if she decides on the one you didn’t choose). If she wants your HONEST & TRUTHFUL opinion about something she chose or is going to choose, remember that your answer should be based on all the other things she has already chosen & remind her that it’s solemnly your opinion and that she can choose whatever she thinks is best.
Again, you know the bride. Use good judgement. I know that when a bride is planning a wedding, especially if she doesn’t have a wedding planner, things get STRESSFUL. There are all the details that need to be worked out which means it’s only natural if certain things are missed. So be helpful, but don’t be annoying.
Finally, here are my picks for guava (pink/watermelon/coral) bridesmaid dresses:
Alright, there you have it! What I’d tell my 18 year-old self & 1 bridesmaid tip =) If you missed my first post “A letter to my 13 year-old self” on this series, read it here! What is something you’d tell your 18 year-old self or your younger self? Or do you have a bridesmaid tip you live by?
Let me know in the comments!
Thank you for reading. And as always, I wish you the best.
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